The festive season is supposed to feel joyful. But if you’re anything like me, it can quickly become a long list of things to do, places to be, and people to please. You’re juggling work, shopping, guests, decorations, wrapping, cooking – all while your dog watches it unfold from the sidelines.

You might not notice it at first. But suddenly, they’re barking more than usual, refusing meals, hiding away, or having accidents indoors. And you’re left wondering: is my dog okay?

You’re not alone in asking that question. Every Christmas, I get messages from worried dog owners seeing changes in their dog’s behaviour. What often goes unnoticed is that dogs can feel just as overwhelmed as we do during the festive season.

In this post, I’ll show you how to tell if your dog is stressed at Christmas, what those signs might look like in real life, and how you can make the holidays easier on them. I’ll also share ways my dog walking clients in Finchley and nearby areas have helped their dogs stay calm and happy, even when the house is full of guests.

Let’s get into it – for your sake, and theirs.

Sudden Changes in Appetite

One of the first signs I often notice in stressed dogs is a drop in appetite. If your dog charges typically into the kitchen at feeding time but is now sniffing and walking away, something’s off.

Some dogs will still eat but leave half the bowl untouched. Others might refuse treats they’d usually love.

Stress can affect digestion and cause dogs to lose their appetite. This is especially true if their mealtime routine has changed because you’re eating at odd hours or hosting people at dinnertime.

Ask yourself:
Has your dog’s eating pattern changed this week? Are they skipping meals or leaving food?

If yes, take a moment to look at what’s changed in the household recently. Visitors, noise, travel, or disrupted routines could be playing a part.

Tip:
Try to stick to their regular feeding times as much as possible. Even if you’re dining late, keep your dog’s mealtimes consistent. Feed them in a quiet space where they won’t be interrupted.

Hiding Away or Sleeping More

Dogs under stress often shut down – mentally and physically.

You might find them sleeping more, avoiding interaction, or sneaking off to corners of the house. Some will retreat to their beds for most of the day, even if they’re usually sociable.

Ask yourself:
Is your dog choosing to be alone more than usual? Are they sleeping more, or do they seem disconnected?

This behaviour is a coping strategy. It’s their way of saying, “I need a break.”

Tip:
Make sure your dog always has access to a quiet room or safe space where they won’t be disturbed. Let guests know that this area is off-limits.

Increased Barking or Vocal Changes

Barking is one of the most common stress signals, especially if your dog is usually quiet.

During the holidays, there’s more going on: deliveries, guests, loud music, fireworks, doorbells. It’s no surprise your dog might bark more, whine, or make noises they don’t usually make.

Some dogs bark to protect their space from unfamiliar people or sounds. Others might whine to seek reassurance.

Ask yourself:
Has your dog’s vocal behaviour changed recently? Are they barking at things they typically ignore?

Tip:
Try keeping your dog on a structured routine and use background noise (like classical music or a TV) to muffle sudden sounds. If your dog is particularly reactive, avoid placing them near doors or windows where they can see every arrival.

Accidents Indoors

If your dog is fully house-trained and suddenly starts toileting indoors, stress could be the cause.

Even older dogs with solid toilet habits can regress when overwhelmed.

Ask yourself:
Have there been more accidents since guests arrived, or has the routine changed?

Tip:
Stick to regular walk times, even on busy days. Don’t rely on the garden – take them out for a proper walk where they can decompress and focus on sniffing and movement.

Aggressive or Destructive Behaviour

If your usually calm dog suddenly starts chewing furniture, shredding toys, or snapping at people, don’t assume it’s bad behaviour.

Stress can cause dogs to act out – especially when they feel they have no control over their environment.

Dogs show frustration and anxiety in different ways. Some chew to self-soothe. Others growl when they’re pushed too far. If a child tries to hug them or a guest leans in for a fuss, they may react defensively.

Ask yourself:
Has your dog become more sensitive, irritable, or destructive since the Christmas build-up started?

Tip:
Respect your dog’s boundaries. Let them approach visitors if and when they’re ready. And provide safe chews or food puzzles to give them an outlet for their stress.

Subtle Stress Signals You Might Miss

Not all signs are apparent. Some dogs show stress through body language:

Excessive yawning
Lip licking or nose licking
Panting when not hot
Shaking off like they’re wet
Tucked tail or lowered head
Pacing or constant sniffing

These small signals often get overlooked in busy households.

Real example:
A client’s cockapoo started yawning constantly and licking her lips during family dinners. At first, they thought she was just tired. But it turned out the noise and food smells were too much. Giving her a quiet space to eat her dinner away from the table made a huge difference.

Tip:
Learn to spot these signs before they escalate. A dog who’s lip-licking now could be growling tomorrow if pushed too far.

Tips for Avoiding Dog Stress at Christmas

Here’s what I recommend to my clients who want to make Christmas less overwhelming for their dogs:

Stick to your dog’s routine, especially around feeding, walks, and bedtime.
Give them space. Set up a calm, quiet room with their bed, toys, and water.
Keep walk times sacred. A daily walk helps release stress and maintain behaviour.
Ask guests to ignore your dog at first. Let your dog approach when they’re ready.
Avoid loud party games or fireworks if you know your dog is noise-sensitive.
Keep up with training rules. Consistency helps your dog feel secure.

Real Talk: Dogs Don’t Always Love Christmas

As much as we love the festivities, they’re not always fun for dogs.

There’s food they can’t eat, people they don’t know, and routines that get thrown off. And when they show signs of stress, we need to pay attention.

If you’re struggling to juggle everything and keep your dog calm, you don’t have to do it alone.

I offer holiday dog walking, enrichment visits, and solo walks in Finchley and nearby areas to help keep dogs grounded during the festive season. A familiar face and a proper walk can go a long way.

FAQ

What are the early signs of dog stress at Christmas?
Look out for subtle changes, such as increased yawning, lip licking, or seeking quiet spots. Dogs might also bark more or lose their appetite.

Should I cancel Christmas plans if my dog is stressed?
Not necessarily. But do plan. Create a safe space, stick to routines, and consider a professional dog walker if needed.

Can dogs get physically unwell from stress?
Yes. Prolonged stress can lead to digestive issues, behavioural changes, and even suppressed immunity. Always speak to your vet if you’re unsure.

How can I keep my dog calm during family gatherings?
Use calming tools like snuffle mats or chews, set up a quiet room, and ask visitors to give your dog space. Don’t force interactions.

Final Thoughts

You know your dog better than anyone. If something feels off, trust your gut. The signs of stress might be subtle at first, but spotting them early makes all the difference.

Christmas doesn’t need to be chaotic for your dog. With a bit of planning, clear routines, and support, you can help them stay settled throughout the festive season.

And if you need help with walking, enrichment, or holiday visits, I’m here to help. I offer one-to-one walks and bespoke support across Finchley, East Finchley, Muswell Hill, and nearby areas.

Your dog deserves a calm Christmas, too.

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