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We may think that our pets love being made a fuss of and stroked and petted, but this might not be true all of the time. Does your dog run the opposite way when you reach down to pet him, or does he come straight towards you, with his tail wagging?
Even dog owners and those with the best intentions still make mistakes when greeting either a strange dog or one they know.
Common mistakes people make when greeting a dog
Below is a list of common mistakes we make when meeting a dog. As a professional dog walker, even I have been guilty. Can you honestly say you haven’t? Why not let us know in the comments
- Forgeting to seek the owners permission to say hello to the dog – yes, I have been guilty
2. Putting your hand over or on top of the dogs head to stroke / pat him.
3. Put your face up close to the dog’s face and coo, “Oh, you’re soooo cute.”
4. Spotting a dog, then making direct eye contact with the dog without hesitating to go straight up to the dog whilst making high-pitched vocalizations.
5. Coming up behind a big teddy bear and start rubbing their back
7. Spot a cute dog lying down quietly, minding its own business and then crouching down over the dog with your arms outstretched to Stroke them
8. Believe that because you love dogs, all dogs love you, too, and so its fine to go straight up to the dog without asking both owners and dog permission
As mentioned, I am guilty of making some of these mistakes, and luckily it was fine. However, sudden going up to a dog can end badly and alas, the dog always gets the blame. Would you please think before you Stroke?
Begin with greeting a dog correctly.
So how should I approach a strange dog (or even one I know)? The first thing first make sure you ask the owner permission. They may very well say no. If this is the case, please do not get upset and move along. It may be that their dog is grumpy or unwell, and so they have said no for the comfort and safety of everyone concerned.
Also, if you see a dog wearing something yellow, such as a yellow ribbon or a yellow coat, this is most likely to be a way of saying, “please leave me alone”. More info on this can be found at the Yellow Dog site.
- Nevr approach the dog directly. Never reach out to the dog and touch him. Allow them to make the initial contact
- nevber make direct eye contact. Dogs see this as a threat
- Squat down to his level, turning your body sideways, so you don’t appear too threatening
- Try and keep your body relaxed and ensure you make no sudden movements. Blinking slowly is a calming signal and will also indicate to the dog that you mean no harm
- if you do speak to the doig then keep yopur voice calm, and friendly
- If the dog starts to show an interst in yoiu by sniffing you with a relaxed posture and has soft eyes then slowly opffer the dog your hand to sniff. On the other hand, he backs away then please do not force him to say hello.
- Once the dlog is happy you can slowly start to pet him. DO NOT pet the top of there head but slowly stroke their shoulder or chest so that the dog can see what you are doing at all times and doesnt feel threatened
Remember, if the dog shows signs of stress or backs away at any time, please respect their wishes and stop what you are doing.
It is vital to make sure you pay close attention to their body language at all times.
Where does your dog like to be stroked and petted?
The majority of pets are happy to be stroked at the base of the neck, on the shoulders and chest areas. It’s best to reach your hand in from the side instead of lowering your hand down over his head. You will probably find your dog’s specific locations where he loves a good tickle. T e back of the neck, under his chin, and the base of his tail are all likely areas. You will find that he probably won’t like being petted on his tail, paws, legs, ears, muzzle and the top of his head.
Always Stroke the dog’s fur in the direction that the hair grows. Petting a dog should be a therapeutic and calm experience for both the dog and the owner.
Things NOT to do when petting a dog
# Most dogs generally dislike patting
- Slapping the dog can also be quite frightening
- Fast, vigorous petting is likely to agitate the dog
- When a dog rolls over onto his belly, this isn’t an invite to rub his tummy. It’s actually an act of canine submission.
- Dogs don’t like hugs as they are unable to move away when they choose to. Don’t allow small children to hug a dog tightly.
- Dog’s really don’t like kissing – teach your child to keep his face well away from the dog’s mouth. Always make sure that children and dogs are supervised when together.
When NEVER to pet a dog
For safety reasons, your own and the dogs, don’t attempt to Stroke a dog behind a fence or chained up. I these situations, he is more likely to bite you if you approach him. Please don’t attempt to pet a dog when he is barking. T is only asking for trouble. R member, too, always ask if you can pet someone else’s dog, especially if he is on the lead. It’s not only good manners, but it will also keep you safe too.